28th sept time 8.50am
Rajiv's father makes it a point to irritate Rajiv by going of to sleep after breakfast ( some days he does not sleep at all and then he starts sleeping). Rajiv chides him for doing so. Father begins to shout saying - he does not want to stay with him(Rajiv),
" You brought me here from Bhabua, send me to Vishnu's place (Bhabua). Koi mujhe bhejna nahi chahta. Mujhe marte ho. Main tumhare saath rehna nahi chahta. Mujhe kutte ki tahra rakhte ho. Mujhe bhej do."
Rajiv gave him a paper to write out his grievance and state that he wants to leave, FIL says he will write in Rajiv 's presence. In 2017, FIL has drafted a complaint to the DM saying that "Mujhe is narkiye jeevan se azad karao"
The classic part is that on Rajiv's birthday - 25th Sept - Rajiv's cousin Rintoo from Dehradun, was passing by Lko from Varanasi. He stopped by at Levana and came home in the evening to celebrate Rajiv's birthday and had dinner with us. After dinner, he sweetly explained to the old man that no one will keep him, so he should stay with his only son in Lko.
Background:
F-i-l was staying with son (married) and wife since 2002 in Mumbai. They had been called by the eldest son Prabhu when his wife was expecting their first child. The M-i-l went first and then FIL followed, leaving behind the youngest son and his family in Dehradun. Then FIL after Prabhu's death in 2012 June decided to move back to Dehradun. Wife did not want to leave Mumbai and the DIL and 2 kids alone, so FIL in a huff walked out on his own. SInce then his favourite daughter-in-law has forbidden his entry to their home in Navi Mumbai and she has kept the mother-in-law with her for property reasons. So he goes to Mumbai, stays with his daughter Munni and meets his wife in a restaurant once a month.
Since then he has stayed at Dehradun, fallen ill with asthma. Rintoo was taking care of him but when the conditioned worsened, he put FIL on a train to Delhi where Rajiv hospitalised him and ran up a bill of 84000/-, among other things.
The has stayed with Vishnu for 2 yrs and was cleaning his toilet, . When Rintoo told Rajiv this, then Rajiv went and brought him from Bhabua in March/April 2015.
He stayed with us for a month and at the end of May 2015 made a big fuss about wanting to go back to Bhabua saying they _Vishnu and family were calling him.
On June 1st Rajiv and I left him at Charbagh railway station for Bhabua.
After 10 days , FIL calls up to say that he wants to come back. So Rajiv drove in the Scorpio to get him and all his stuff from Bhabua.
Then in August 2015, he declared he was going to Mumbai. On 21st August, 2015, he caught a flight for Mumbai. It was Adi's birthday and FIL did not even remember or bother to wish him.
In between his stay in Lko from March/April to May & June 10th to 21st August, 2015, he would constantly talk to his wife and all his relatives and friends, whose numbers he had.
In March/April 2015, one afternoon he asked me for water as the jug was empty. While I was pouring the water in his glass, he commented, "Tumhari figure bahut achchi hai. Tume sari mein achchi lagti ho." And he made a gesture with his hands.
I thought to myself -my father never commented on my figure nor did anyone else ever say a word, and this person (FIL) who I have just recently met has the audacity to comment on my figure. Since that day I made it a point to wear the shirt over the sari until I reached my room to change.
He came back after 2 months telling Rajiv that he was not getting to eat properly at Munni's (daughter) - late breakfast , lunch and dinner unlike Lko where Breakfast was at 7.30, Lunch at 1.30 pm and Dinner at 9pm. Since then he would go to Mumbai every few months and come back after some months. The last time he came back from Mumbai ws on 4th Oct 2017 - he told Rajiv that he was not getting food on time. When he landed in Lko and came home I asked him how his daughter was managing - he said she has a maid servant coming thrice a day to cook breakfast, lunch and dinner. So I questioned him infront of Rajiv that he had said that he was not getting food , so FIL said he never said that.
Once in Mumbai he would bad-mouth Rajiv to Munni, with whom he always stayed.
We know this because his sister Munni called form Mumbai to confirm the same.
In Janaury2016, Rajiv had gone to Delhi for work. One evening over tea, he tells my mother how difficult it was for him to raise 3 kids and that he sold milk to meet expenses. He also said that his wife had gone for a wedding and she wrote telling him that she was expecting again. They had the elder son Prabhu and had taken his sister's daughter Munni into his care by then. SO he told her to get the pregnancy aborted. It could not be done and she delivered twin - boys Rajiv and Abhishek. ( He is sitting in Rajiv's house, telling Rajiv's wife and mother-in-law that he wanted the pregnancy aborted. What kind of conversation is this??)
Ironically, his younger son was an alcoholic and died/committed suicide/murdered - came under a train in MAy 2012. The son - Abhishek had called him up and FIL in disgust told him -"Ja ke marr ja". The body parts were found and cremation done by relatives. His scooter was never found nor an FIR lodged for it. Aparently FIL wrote a suicide note which Abhishek's wife recognised as FIL's handwriting.
Eldest son - Prabhu had a kidney problem and could have been saved if FIL gave a kidney - but FIL refused to donate. HIs wife says he was eating sweets while his son was ill in Mumbai.
In between his mumbai trips, there would be trips to Bhabua. On the 2019 June trip, Rajiv found him standing close to the TV set in the hotel watching Roger Binny's DIL and her dress. Earlier he has commented on Vishnu's daughter, aged 16/17yrs, on how her chest has grown. He has commented on Vishnu's wife saying that she has turned fat. ( Who gave this man authority to comment on women and their figures and measure their breasts! IS this normal for village background people or is there a something else happening here - FIL has a dirty eye on women and does not spare his own family women)
Back to this afternoon 28th September 2020:
Rajiv came home by 1pm and asked if he was ready to leave and if he had written that he wants to go of his own free will. FIL turns around and says - "Maine kab kaha ki main jana chahta hoon. Tum nikal rahe ho toh......" . His next dialogue was " Main train se kaise jaunga?"( I doubt if anyone was born in a plane)
Rajiv told me he almost ran over a lady on the two-wheeler as she was coming out from the road from Prag Narain Road to Nishatganj bridge, after flyover (Baikunt dham road).
In the evening today, when Rajiv went to give him tea, he told Rajiv to let it go. This is classic indeed - FIL made a hue and cry about wanting to go and that Rajiv should send him.
I am writing this down as this is very stressful for me to endure. I have never seen this kind of behavior and it is shameful and distressing.