28th sept time 8.50am

Rajiv's father makes it a point to irritate Rajiv by going of to sleep after breakfast ( some days he does not sleep at all and then he starts sleeping). Rajiv chides him for doing so. Father begins to shout saying - he does not want to stay with him(Rajiv), 

" You brought me here from Bhabua, send me to Vishnu's place (Bhabua). Koi mujhe bhejna nahi chahta. Mujhe marte ho. Main tumhare saath rehna nahi chahta. Mujhe kutte ki tahra rakhte ho. Mujhe bhej do."

Rajiv gave him a paper to write out his grievance and state that he wants to leave, FIL says he will write in Rajiv 's presence. In 2017, FIL has drafted a complaint to the DM saying that "Mujhe is narkiye jeevan se azad karao"

The classic part is that on Rajiv's birthday - 25th Sept - Rajiv's cousin Rintoo from Dehradun, was passing by Lko from Varanasi. He stopped by at Levana and came home in the evening to celebrate Rajiv's birthday and had dinner with us. After dinner, he sweetly explained to the old man that no one will keep him, so he should stay with his only son in Lko.

Background:

F-i-l was staying with son (married) and wife since 2002 in Mumbai. They had been called by the eldest son Prabhu when his wife was expecting their first child. The M-i-l went first and then FIL followed, leaving behind the youngest son and his family in Dehradun. Then FIL after Prabhu's death in 2012 June decided to move back to Dehradun. Wife did not want to leave Mumbai and the DIL and 2 kids alone, so FIL in a huff walked out on his own. SInce then his favourite daughter-in-law has forbidden his entry to their home in Navi Mumbai and she has kept the mother-in-law with her for property reasons. So he goes to Mumbai, stays with his daughter Munni and meets his wife in a restaurant once a month.

Since then he has stayed at Dehradun, fallen ill with asthma. Rintoo was taking care of him but when the conditioned worsened, he put FIL on a train to Delhi where Rajiv hospitalised him and ran up a bill of 84000/-, among other things.

The has stayed with Vishnu for 2 yrs and was cleaning his toilet, . When Rintoo told Rajiv this, then Rajiv went and brought him from Bhabua in March/April 2015.

He stayed with us for a month and at the end of May 2015 made a big fuss about wanting to go back to Bhabua saying they _Vishnu and family were calling him.

On June 1st Rajiv and I left him at Charbagh railway station for Bhabua.

After 10 days , FIL calls up to say that he wants to come back. So Rajiv drove in the Scorpio to get him and all his stuff from Bhabua.

Then in August 2015, he declared he was going to Mumbai. On 21st August, 2015, he caught a flight for Mumbai. It was Adi's birthday and FIL did not even remember or bother to wish him. 

In between his stay in Lko from March/April to May & June 10th to 21st August, 2015, he would constantly talk to his wife and all his relatives and friends, whose numbers he had.

In March/April 2015, one afternoon he asked me for water as the jug was empty. While I was pouring the water in his glass, he commented, "Tumhari figure bahut achchi hai. Tume sari mein achchi lagti ho." And he made a gesture with his hands.

I thought to myself -my father never  commented on my figure nor did anyone else ever say a word, and this person (FIL) who I have just recently met has the audacity to comment on my figure. Since that day I made it a point to wear the shirt over the sari until I reached my room to change.

He came back after 2 months telling Rajiv that he was not getting to eat properly at Munni's (daughter) - late breakfast , lunch and dinner unlike Lko where Breakfast was at 7.30, Lunch at 1.30 pm and Dinner at 9pm. Since then he would go to Mumbai every few months and come back after some months. The last time he came back from Mumbai ws on 4th Oct 2017 - he told Rajiv that he was not getting food on time. When he landed in Lko and came home I asked him how his daughter was managing - he said she has a maid servant coming thrice a day to cook breakfast, lunch and dinner. So I questioned him infront of Rajiv that he had said that he was not getting food , so FIL said he never said that. 

Once in Mumbai he would bad-mouth Rajiv to Munni, with whom he always stayed. 

We know this because his sister Munni called form Mumbai to confirm the same.

In Janaury2016, Rajiv had gone to Delhi for work. One evening over tea, he tells my mother how difficult it was for him to raise 3 kids and that he sold milk to meet expenses. He also said that his wife had gone for a wedding and she wrote telling him that she was expecting again. They had the elder son Prabhu and had taken his sister's daughter Munni into his care by then. SO he told her to get the pregnancy aborted. It could not be done and she delivered twin - boys Rajiv and Abhishek. ( He is sitting in Rajiv's house, telling Rajiv's wife and mother-in-law that he wanted the pregnancy aborted. What kind of conversation is this??)

Ironically, his younger son was an alcoholic and died/committed suicide/murdered  - came under a train in MAy 2012. The son - Abhishek had called him up and FIL in disgust told him -"Ja ke marr ja". The body parts were found and cremation done by relatives. His scooter was never found nor an FIR lodged for it. Aparently FIL wrote a suicide note which Abhishek's wife recognised as FIL's handwriting.

Eldest son - Prabhu had a kidney problem and could have been saved if FIL gave a kidney - but FIL refused to donate. HIs wife says he was eating sweets while his son was ill in Mumbai.

In between his mumbai trips, there would be trips to Bhabua. On the 2019 June trip, Rajiv found him standing close to the TV set in the hotel watching Roger Binny's DIL and her dress. Earlier he has commented on Vishnu's daughter, aged 16/17yrs, on how her chest has grown. He has commented on Vishnu's wife saying that she has turned fat. ( Who gave this man authority to comment on women and their figures and measure their breasts! IS this normal for village background people or is there a something else happening here - FIL has a dirty eye on women and does not spare his own family women)

Back to this afternoon 28th September 2020:

 Rajiv came home by 1pm and asked if he was ready to leave and if he had written that he wants to go of his own free will. FIL turns around and says - "Maine kab kaha ki main jana chahta hoon. Tum nikal rahe ho toh......" . His next dialogue was " Main train se kaise jaunga?"( I doubt if anyone was born in a plane)

Rajiv told me he almost ran over a lady on the two-wheeler as she was coming out from the road from Prag Narain Road to Nishatganj bridge, after flyover (Baikunt dham road).

In the evening today, when Rajiv went to give him tea, he told Rajiv to let it go. This is classic indeed - FIL made a hue and cry about wanting to go and that Rajiv should send him.

I am writing this down as this is very stressful for me to endure. I have never seen this kind of behavior and it is shameful and distressing. 

4th April 2020 Argument

4th April, 2020: Background -Had sold the tab to Mustafa for Rs 2500/-as salary in March was delayed. He wanted the charger too. After that I kept asking Rajiv to take out the Nokia phone box as it had the charger, headphoe and slot opening key. He kept saying he could not find it. One day he suggested that it may have been packed off to Maqbara. I told him No because I had not taken it there. Then another day he said that it may be in Scorpio or i20 trunk(dikki). Two days back, Adi wanted my headphone as he could not find his, as usual. Today, courtesy Corona, he went with Adi to clean the cars and bikes. Upon his return I asked him about the nokia box again. WHen he said it was not in Scorpio, I asked him why? He said he found all other boxes - his tab box, samsung box but they were empty. And Adi's Nokia box is with Adi and that too is empty. So, only my box is missing. How is this possible? And why should only my box be missing? ( When we were in Ansal & Metro, all boxes were given to me and all stuff was intact. In 205 Rohtas, he took the entire packet of the boxes and kept in on top in Adi's room.) He just told me its not there. I may have raised my voice a bit at him and he got angry. He threw the pink bucket and broke its handle. Then he flared, went into the kitchen and took out the big knife saying he would commit suicide - saying that this incident reminded him of a similar incident with Sushma- his keep (how after he cleaned his Maruti 800 and came back home, she had a fight with him and hit his mother). He threw the knife after I told him to stop throwing a tantrum like his father. BY then Adi came halfway down the stairs to listen to the ruckus. (Rajiv threw a similar tantrum on a winter night Jan/Feb 2016 in Ansal when mummy asked his to open the bathroom door which he had locked - He would often lock her bathroom door to harass her. He flew off the hamdle immediately saying that she was accusing him of something he did not do. He picked up a blade and cut his hand lightly and some blood appear. Then Aditya jumped in and seeing the blood, went and hit mummy below the jaw. Mummy fell down on her face forward. SHe lay there still for a few minutes before I and Aditya picked her up. In the night , she came to tell me that her mouth was paining badly. I gave her a pain killer. Next morning , she could barely eat breakfast. By the evening when we took her to the dentist, the X_ray said that she had broken her Jaw bone. The X- ray also showed a broken rib which had narrowly missed her heart. SHe had her jaw tied up for 2 months to get it healed). He then starts to raise his voice at me saying what did his father do? I told him that his father throws tantrums too and that I would call the police and have hi m sent to jail. HIs father has a dirty mind and has gestured to me saying that I have a good figure. He oogles at women dancing in semi-nude costume, loves to watch Roger Binny's wife in her short clothes during cricket commentary. His father and mother are wanted by Dehrradun police for dowry and sending goons to beat up the youngest son - Abhishek's wife and Rajiv's Keep Sushma in Dehradun.) Today I came to know that after an arguement, Sushma hit Rajiv's mother. He then packed her off to Mumbai. Then his father made him patch up with her and they came back together again. Question - If his parents' ( either one) get hit by his KEEP, he packs her off. But what when he hits his wife's mother, not on one occassion but several occassions??

Rajiv's father is a very strange man

3rd July event Rajiv's father Lallan Prasad Srivastava - is a very strange man. On 1st July it was his wedding anniversary. Rajiv phoned his mother( who lives in Mumbai and calls up only when she needs money - long story there again) and wished her and then gave the phone to his father and the old couple spoke for quite some time. We could hear the father saying that due to lockdown he can't visit Mumbai else he would come and stay there. Later on Rajiv told me that she specifically told him that there was no need to send him to Mumbai(via phone recording) and the old man's pleads fell on deaf years. Old man was normal on 30th behaving as if nothing had happened. Then he refused to eat breakfast and lunch the next day (2nd July), slept throughout the day and was woken up by Rajiv around 2.30pm. He argued with Rajiv loudly trying to cover up his bad behavior saying that he didn't feel well and so would not eat and has never done this before. (This behavior pattern is repetitive - I have seen it happen many times since 2015. Have tried to explain to him earlier that this habit of skipping meals is not good at his age but...). In the evening he had tea and in the night he almost jumped out of his room to eat dinner as if nothing had ever happened. today morning again, he had no breakfast, just sat reading the newspaper, hile the maid was sweeping.